information from victims of abuseTAKING STEPS

“If I hadn’t lied for my husband all those times with the police and everyone else he maybe could’ve got the help he needed and my 3 children would not be suffering the consequences of us having to flee our home, living out of carrier bags, moving from sofa to sofa, not having their own stuff ands toys around them. I put him first. Please do something now while you can, don’t do what I did and live to regret it.” – Victim K.S.

 

Why We Didn’t speak out…

  • Because I still love him.
  • I thought I would be judged
  • Fear
  • Family
  • Finances – Losing my house/job
  • Friends
  • He only does it when he drinks.
  • His family
  • He told me I wouldn’t be believed
  • Pride – I wanted to hide situation
  • Shame
  • Worry about what may happen if social service got involved
  • Thought things would change.
  • This is all I’m worth.
  • Threats to harm or kill
  • I feel vulnerable and scared

“I wish I had trusted just one person to tell them how I felt. This would have led to the help I really needed. I would have felt safe and protected. My perpetrator now lies in court to have access to my children. He still is able to manipulate, accuse, intimidate, and harasses me. If only I had done something sooner.” – Victim A.

 

 

As victims of Domestic Violence,
We wished we had spoken out as…

  • Our children witnessed/ suffered and experienced more abuse
  • He now has another victim.
  • He stalks me.
  • He threatens me.
  • He wouldn’t have gone on so long…
  • I feel it’s never going to end.
  • I lost everything anyway.
  • I now have no evidence, because I didn’t tell anyone…
  • I’ve missed opportunities
  • My health suffered

 

 

For free confidential support and advice please call Gerrie on
07810 430689

or the Police on 0845 045 4545

 

Gerrie Jordan MBACP
Advanced Group Facilitator
DIPS Centred Counselling